What I Know For Sure

“What’s one thing you know for sure?”

Super Soul Sunday is one of my favorite shows.  In each episode, Oprah interviews a guest that is some type of Spiritual Guru or has overcome a huge life challenge.  Basically, anyone that’s in a position to share some major life lessons.  At the end of the episode she asks a series of rapid fire questions which often includes: “What’s one thing you know for sure?”.  

So today I thought I’d share 3 things I know for sure.  I’m celebrating the lessons I’ve learned so far to turn this hump day into a high vibe day.  I know I have so much more to learn and you better believe that I will be sharing it here first.  So stay tuned!  

These are the things I know for sure: 

Happiness is a choice

It’s so true!  I know it seems superficial.  Choosing happiness doesn’t mean you have to be fake and just pretend everything is fine when you know it’s not.  It means to focus your energy on the positive moments, being in tune with the feelings of those positive moments, and feeling that feeling all day long.  The more you do this, the more Happiness becomes an easier choice.  

Honestly, this concept baffled me for a long time.  I used to think that choosing happiness meant it was totally fine for someone to be incredibly rude to me.  That I was just supposed to accept it and be happy.  Wouldn’t I just attract more rude people I thought?  However, the way it works is like this:  Instead of being pissed off for the rest of the day that someone was incredibly rude, I could focus on how happy I felt that it was National Dog Day and all these adorable dog photos were popping up in my newsfeed all day.  That person was still rude to me for sure, but I didn’t let them suck my energy.  I focused my energy somewhere else.  

You are not broken.  You do not need to be fixed.  

You do not need a magic want to fix you.  You do not need a miraculous mantra that will cure you.  Because you are not broken.  You do not have a giant crack running through that needs to be glued together a la Humpty Dumpty.  Instead, think of yourself like an onion.  Your outer layers are the fear, insecurities, stories, and negative believes that are protecting your true self.  You don’t need to be fixed.  You simply need to shed some layers so that your true self shines. 

I used to think I was broken.  I’m not even sure I 100% believe in God, but I thought God screwed up when he made me.  That I was a mistake.  And so I would read book after book and go to seminar after seminar waiting for someone to say the one divine sentence that would fix me.  I’m sure I’m not the only one that goes to such a crazy place :)  Once I realized I’m just an awesome onion, I could turn the work to identifying the way I was holding myself back.  

Learn to listen to your intuition

Five years ago, when I took that job in Dallas I knew I didn’t want it before the first day.  I told myself it was my best current option.  I didn’t value myself and I went anyway.  We all know how that turned out!  Or when a guy asked me out and I thought - well this could be interesting.  Neither of those worked out and I knew about it a head of time.  I once heard the saying “If it’s not a hell yes, it’s a hell no” and I totally forget who said it but it’s so true.  In both cases I was completely settling and if I’m honest then I totally knew it ahead of time.  

If you follow me on Instagram you know I’ve been going on these 5am walk/run workouts.  While I’m using these to get my body moving first thing in the morning, I’m also using them to listen to my intuition.  I don’t have a set path.  I go where my intuition tells me to - keep going straight, turn here, do that same loop again - and I listen to what my body wants to do - today we’re going to walk, today we’re going to run like the wind.  It’s been a great practice to get out of my head.  

This is what I know for sure.  

I'm half way through the blog challenge!  What's on your mind?  It's hump day so out your stresses in the comments below.  I know you have them!  You'll feel much lighter and it will give me some inspiration.  My goal is for everyone to be the most awesome version of themselves so how can I help?